Once upon a time two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labor and goods as needed without a hitch.
Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.
We have all heard of the “self-fulfilling prophecy“. One way to look at this idea is to say that “we get what we expect” and if we expect something to happen, our expectation will tend to make it so. Continue reading →
Something in early 1973, Bruce received a request to instruct a young man named John in his martial philosophy of Jeet Kune Do. Lee graciously declined the request, stating the following:
“Time wise I wouldn’t have time to teach, but I’m willing-when time permits-to honestly express myself or “to open myself” to you-to act as a sort of sign pole for a traveler.”
The traveler in this case was John, but Lee’s advice is pertinent to anyone of us who is wanting to travel down life’s road in search of truth. And, quite in keeping with his personal philosophy, Lee realized that the most enlightened form of teaching was to serve, not as a “giver of truth” but rather as a “pointer towards truth;” to point one in the direction of truth in the hope that he will ultimately find his own. Lee put a finer point on this by adding:Continue reading →
A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: ”How heavy is this glass of water?”
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.
She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.”
She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”
It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!