How do you recognize a Passive – Aggressive Behaviour


Maybe you often hear the phrase “passive-aggressive behavior,” but you had no idea what it means. Verbal violence could be the first feature that you can think in such cases. If it’s a passive and aggressive  behavior  at the same time, probably it won’t get to episodes of physical violence, right? Such logic is acceptable, but it is not the case for this type of behavior. In reality, those who have passive-aggressive behavior usually are responsible for many imbalances that occur in the lives of those closest to them. They manifest a conscious hostility towards authoritative figures.

These people usually do not trust those around them, are ineffective and are not positive (negative state of mind). They try to get revenge on others through an agitated behaviour, opposing and refusing to improve their performance, both in the workplace and in their personal lives. These events usually begin in childhood and can be identified in different contexts. Those who suffer from this disorder do not bear responsibility in the workplace and also in their social life. Delays and inefficiency, tendency to “forget” obligations, these are “weaponsused by the passive-aggressive people. Persuasion, blaming others are also characteristics of these individuals.

Signs of passive-aggressive behaviour

If you discover that you or someone close to you suffers from at least five of the following signs and symptoms, it is possible to identify passive-aggressive behavior:

Delays: Long and frequent delays are the key for success? Rather signs quite clear that there is no goodwill that you or someone close to you will fulfill your duties. The causes can be many, but if we’re talking of hostility it can be considered a pretty clear indication of passive aggression.

Pouting, Irritability, Tendency To Fight. If such events are often visible, it again may be passive-aggressive behavior.

Inefficiency at work. Refusal to perform certain tasks at work or the tendency to work slowly, with difficulty and do something wrong deliberately are other elements that add to this type of behaviour.

Frequent and unrealistic protests. People with passive-aggressive behavior usually complain that everyone asks the impossible or too much that can be done. In reality, it is nothing but an additional manifestation of this  behavioral disorder

“Forgetobligations. People that “forget” suddenly that they had to finish an important report at a certain time can be accused of ill will.

“I did much better than others.” Those who believe are doing a better job at work compared to the rest of the employees live in a perpetual illusion. Sure they can often be right, but if that thought comes daily, several times a day, and it’s accompanied by the rest of “symptoms” mentioned above, it is possible that the person in question suffers from passive – aggressive behaviour.

Refuses to accept suggestions. When others tell such people what to do to improve productivity, for example, they might not react in a positive and constructive manner. In addition, individuals who suffer from such disorders can also obstruct the work and efforts of those around them, especially when it comes to teamwork. In other words, they “dig” their colleges without any good reason.

These are clear signs that a person is passive-aggressive. The treatment is not always sought, especially because such events do not affect individuals themselves, but rather those around them. According to some psychologists, such behaviour origins in the subjects childhood . Their mothers / fathers did not show sufiecient parental warmth may lead to the inability of the child to express anger towards parents at the appropriate time. Thus, they accumulate this frustrations and, as adults, they tend to develop such passive-aggressive behaviors. Depression is of course common in such cases, and these people need to learn how to control their anger and anxiety, and to express these feelings normal. They need to understand that those around them (friends, relatives and colleagues) are deeply affected by their manner of behaving. Change must come from within, gradually, and family can play the role of good therapists if they do not wish to call to help.

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